This morning I released a blog about the heart, and all of its issues. If you haven’t read it yet, please click here. This blog is a continuation of that conversation.
One thing, a very important thing, that the heart is responsible for is forgiveness. Forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do, depending on the offense. In my world, the offense is rape, molestation, battery, verbal abuse, neglect, and the like. Now, that’s the worst spectrum of things to be forgiven for, which is why I am bringing it up.
I mean, if you put it into perspective, offenses such as owing money or being locked out of a house don’t compare to something as tragic as domestic violence, right? So first things first, consider the offense and most grudges will be eliminated right out the gate.
Now if you are faced with an offense that is deeply rooted in hurt and pain, then forgiveness can be a challenge. I am not saying it is not possible; I am a living example that it is possible. I have been both the offender and offended, so I had to practice giving and receiving forgiveness.
But my mother has taught me a very valuable lesson this week. She said that forgiveness is not for the offender, but for the offended. Her exact words were, “It ain’t for you, it’s for me!” It is for me and my ability to move on in life … so I have to forgive so my blessings aren’t blocked. It doesn’t mean I am going to forget what was done against me though. Thanks Mama!
So here’s the thing: The mind won’t let you forget, but the heart will let you forgive. Therefore, move by the beat of your heart. And the best part of it, there is no limit on how many times you can forgive. So forgive and let go and move the hell on. The end.