Recently I had the distinct honor and pleasure to interview a new author, Mr. Eddie K. Wright, on his upcoming project: Voice For The Silent Fathers. (Book release date is June 1, 2016)
His book details his challenge with accepting his gay son. His story is one of acceptance, inspiration, unconditional love and awareness. I invoke you to read and listen with an open heart.
Oftentimes we judge others based on their sexuality, and not their heart. We are all humans and deserve to be treated with decency and respect. And the Bible tells us to judge not lest ye be judged. No one is perfect, not even a heterosexual or a Jew or a Muslim or a white man. **stepping down from my soap box now**
Now, let’s first introduce Mr. Eddie K. Wright. He is a fitness trainer, Yoga instructor, spiritual motivational speaker and an inmate at a federal prison. During his sentence, he wrote this amazing nonfiction, “Voice For The Silent Fathers”, as well as a number of other compilations to be released soon.
“Voice For The Silent Fathers” is his memoir detailing the controversial experience of being the young father of a son who would grow up to be the gayest man on the planet! His “NO SON OF MINE!!” street gangster mentality evolves during his difficult life journey coming to realize that his responsibility as a loving father didn’t change just because his son was gay.
The premier release “VOICE FOR THE SILENT FATHERS” details the struggle and inner conflict with being the parent of a homosexual child in the day, and a known connected gangster at night. Overcoming his “No son of mine” mentality, by realizing the true meaning of unconditional love wasn’t easy, but his deep insight, heartfelt honesty, and ‘laugh to keep from crying’ attitude, makes for a humorous read for anyone touched by this issue, which means it’s for everyone!
Now, as I interviewed Mr. Wright over the phone, I was so inspired to help him get his story out. His energy is contagious and he’s hilarious! He had me rolling with his sense of humor. You will see what I mean when you listen to the audio below. He was so positive, in spite of his current situation, and determined to tell his story to the masses in hopes to help someone else avoid the pitfalls he once succumbed to.
Truth be told, Eddie is more “free” than most of us outside of prison walls! Most of us have our internal prison walls because we are stuck and bound by our own thought processes and the opinions of others. We are bound by our past and the pain associated with it. Eddie, though he is physically incarcerated, is mentally and spiritually free! We can all learn a thing or two from this amazing man! So grab your notepads and pencils!!!
I would be remiss if I did not mention the one who is the spearhead of his movement, none other than his beautiful sister, Ms. Mimi Wright, Owner of The Wright Group (a project management consulting group). Ms. Wright manages all of his social media platforms (and there are several), as well as the publishing process of his book. She is dabomb.com. Yep, I said it! LOL
Without further ado, let’s get down to the good juicy stuff I know y’all are just dying to know!!! (full phone interview audio below)
Jai: Your upcoming book, Voice For The Silent Fathers, tell us about it.
Eddie: It’s really about my experience as a young father with a street mentality and dealing with the fact that I knew my son was going to be gay. I had that “no son of mine” attitude that I was battling with the struggle of loving my son so much. Then going from that attitude to learning to love and embrace him.
Jai: When did you first get a feeling your son was gay? What did you tell yourself about the signs you were seeing?
Eddie: Yeah, I knew from diapers and I would see certain signs from my son that would set off instinctive warnings, but I didn’t want to pay much attention to ‘em because I didn’t want to reinforce it, but early on… from diapers I saw it.
Jai: Did your son ever tell you eventually and how did you respond?
Eddie: He never really had to tell me. I already knew. It was like this big pink elephant in the room and we both just ignored it as long as we could. And part of that reason is because I didn’t want to accept it at first. As a father, he looked to me to have the answers and I didn’t know how. I felt alone as a man, because this topic is so taboo. I mean, I had the love and support of my mother and sister, but they were women so it was different. Especially in the way that I was living, I mean, I was in a man’s world and I felt like my son was living in a galaxy far far away and I didn’t understand, and really didn’t want to understand at that time.
Jai: What is your message for writing a book now about your experience?
Eddie: Well, I wrote it over years, and the message was just learning to love unconditionally as a parent. And not allow anyone to dictate how I relate to my child. Specifically, I wanted fathers to know that they are not alone. I didn’t know who to turn to, I needed a male and most fathers use abandonment as a solution; but it’s not because they don’t love their kid, it’s because they don’t know what to do. And it’s such a taboo topic amongst fathers and men. When I mention to other guys that my son is gay and that I love and accept him, they look at me like I’m crazy – one because I admit it but also that I accept it. In the hip hop world, here in prison, I mean it exists but no one wants to address it.
Jai: What was the most important lesson you’ve learned through this experience?
Eddie: I’ve learned how to love unconditionally. You’ll read in the book how my mother loves me in spite of all the stuff I put her through; and that’s how I learned to love my son. Most important lesson is that my responsibility as a father to my son didn’t change just because he was gay. It didn’t change because I had a baby mom that we didn’t get along. Once you’re a parent, you’re a parent and you have to come to terms with that.
Jai: How is your relationship today with your son?
Eddie: It’s great! We communicate several times during the week through emails and phone calls. The book was like a tool also for us to heal one another. He understands where I’m coming from, I mean, I’ve made a lot of mistakes. You’ll read about it in the book, but it’s like the hurt and pain that we caused each other because it was a struggle for us both; but once he saw my perspective, he understood what I was going through, it made it easier for us to work through those difficulties that we had with each other. To me, the book is a success already because we accomplished that.
Jai: Is there anything you want to say in conclusion of this brief interview? Final words or thoughts?
Eddie: Well there’s no parenting book that has all the answers on how to raise any kid, gay or straight. And when we become parents, that’s for life. And we each have a choice to choose what type of parent we are going to be. The homosexual teenagers, they have the highest suicide rate; and I believe that some of them committed suicide because they didn’t feel like they had the love and support from their fathers. And it’s not that the fathers don’t love them, I mean I love my son, but when my fears resulted in my angry responses, it made a tough situation worse. And for many years, my battle was with trying to change my son’s behavior. That was not happening. Like I said, he’s the gayest man on earth, and I’m proud and love him! That was his favorite line when I said that, but to be a loving and supportive father for my son that he needs and deserves I had to change myself. Once I did that, that’s how I found peace and harmony; and our relationship grew and it’s real strong.
There’s so much more we talked about in our 14-minute call!! Eddie even confirmed that I had street cred! LOL Listen to the full phone interview here…
Voice For The Silent Fathers will be released June 1, 2016! But you can pre-order your copy TODAY!!!
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